that’s alright; I think I’ve been asked this question one or two times before.

basically, asexuality runs along a spectrum just as every other sexuality. There are people that are absolutely disgusted by sex, there are people that are simply not interested in it, there are people that find it interesting/arousing but just don’t want to experience it for themselves and so on.

me personally I find myself in a place where I find it insanely interesting and arousing but only as long as it is not directed at me personally (from a person other than myself). I can listen to friends relate something sexual to me but it will not arouse me. I can give others pleasure if I want to – I find it fun, but not arousing – but they would have to be okay with them not being allowed to touch me back.

so you could say that I like pleasing others (which is a reason why I write), but I don’t want to be pleased by others. I am most comfortable doing that by myself