Come to think of it, I’m probably just developing fetishes out of my issues lmao SIKED MYself

mmhh I honestly don’t know what to say to this one. Usually I’m like ‘don’t worry about any kinks you have, they don’t say anything about you as a person’, which is still true. but it’s also important that nobody gets hurt while expressing those kinks. This does not only mean others but also yourself. 

I am not sure whether what you experience/desire are kinks, I’m not an expert on that (I only know what I like and talk about that on my blog), but that’s neither here nor there. What is important is that you always keep your mental health in mind and that everything you do with others regarding these things has to be negotiated beforehand. They absolutely need to know what you’re looking for and you need to know that they respect that.

Safe, sane and consensual as usual; but I also want to stress that you keep your mental health in mind. what you (or anybody for that matter) desires is not sick or bad in itself, but as you implied in your second message, maybe there is something else entirely going on. 

I guess what I’m trying to say is: don’t feel bad or alarmed or anything, but do be careful and alert about your own (non sexual) needs